I recently bought a book called How to Raise Your Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden. It’s quite interesting. He has also written books called Six Pillars of Self-Esteem and Honoring the Self, which I would like to look at.
The 6 pillars are:
1. Live Consciously
This requires us to be fully in the present moment. And for most, this takes a bit of practice, because many of us are
conditioned to disown the here and now, to survive what we have thought that we cannot handle.
2. Accept Yourself
Yes. You have flaws and attributes. You also have the opportunity to enhance who you are, by accepting everything
about yourself. In fact, the only way to enhance who you are is to accept yourself.
3. Take Responsibility for Your Experiences
Through my journey, I have learned to be in conversations where I say to myself, “It comes down to ‘this is where you
end, and I begin,'” Saying such an affirmation has helped me to congruently say what I will and will not experience. And this is quite liberating not only to myself, but also to my interlocutor (most of the time)
4. Assert Who You Are
Honor what you think, feel, believe, need and want. Yes, for many readers this may be a challenge. But the results
of accepting this challenge are wonderfully fulfilling.
5. Live Purposefully
Make an agreement with yourself to reach your highest potential, while you maintain balance in your life.
6. Maintain Your Integrity
Know exactly what your principles are. And stick to them, no matter what others think or do.